“I have the right to do anything”, you say -but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything” – but I will not be mastered by anything. You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the lord, and the lord for the body. (1st Corinthians 6:12&13)
There are different viewpoints on sex before marriage. Some are subtly religious and others are deep-rooted in culture. However, it is a widely held belief that a woman is always to keep her virginity until marriage. Society admonishes girls to be chaste until marriage, arguably men are easily left off the hook on issues of pre-marital sex. Therefore most feminists believe that virginity and sexuality are biased towards men instead of women and therefore advocate for equal right to sex for both men and women.
There was an issue on social media about a married woman whose husband always urinated in her before and after sex before he could climax. This woman is going through emotional turmoil because of this strange ordeal from her husband. She is unable to seek wise counsel and claims her husband has been to numerous hospitals and psychologists but their issues kept compounding. Comments from the platform gave credence to the fact that, if the woman had had sex before marriage she would have been able to decipher her husband’s condition and advised herself.
There are those of the opinion that one has to have sex with different people to ascertain their sexual confidence before marriage. Others believe that sex before marriage also makes partners establish their sexual compatibility. Others also believe sex before marriage seals the relationship and increases one’s lifespan. While some people have sex for fun, there are deep-rooted spiritual, psychological, and emotional issues attached to it.
Before you decide to have sex before marriage, consider these;
1st Thessalonians 4:3-4
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality: that each of you should learn how to control your own bodies in a way that is holy and honorable. The bible which is the first point of contact admonishes us to live a holy life. The bible makes us understand that our bodies are God’s temple and we should therefore not put it into disrepute. Other traditional societies are also of the view that sex before marriage is unwise. In some societies, if one is seen to not be a virgin before marriage that person would be punished and all ties to the person will be severed.
Healthwise, sex before marriage leaves some negative consequences. It exposes one to sexually transmitted diseases like HIV/AIDS, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Herpes, Chlamydia, and even infertility. Most people are taking a lot of sexual risks like homosexuality, random sex, and many others. They do not understand that their actions would have severe consequences on their lives in the future.
Psychologically, the guilt associated with having sex before marriage can be disturbing. There is this urge to always be sexually unsatisfied with sexual partners making people change partners randomly reducing their rate of becoming faithful in their marriages. There are also feelings of regret, anxiety, pains, and dissatisfaction associated with sex. One tends to feed the mind with thoughts of unwanted pregnancy and other associated risks.